Mónica Guzmán with Mellina White — I Never Thought of It That Way

Mónica Guzmán presents in person at Third Place Books – Lake Forest Park


Third Place Books welcomes journalist and author Mónica Guzmán to the stage at Lake Forest Park! She will discuss her new book, I Never Thought of It That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Timesin conversation with Mellina White. This event is free and open to the public. Registration is required in advance.

This event is co-sponsored by Braver Angels. Braver Angels is the nation’s largest nonpartisan cross-partisan organization dedicated to depolarizing America, offering workshops, debates, and discussions driven by tens of thousands of volunteers and more than 70+ chapters in cities and towns across the country. Learn more about Braver Angels.

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About I Never Thought of It That Way. . .

We think we have the answers, but we need to be asking a lot more questions.

Journalist Mónica Guzmán is the loving liberal daughter of Mexican immigrants who voted—twice—for Donald Trump. When the country could no longer see straight across the political divide, Mónica set out to find what was blinding us and discovered the most eye-opening tool we’re not using: our own built-in curiosity.

Partisanship is up, trust is down, and our social media feeds make us sure we’re right and everyone else is ignorant (or worse). But avoiding one another is hurting our relationships and our society.

In this timely, personal guide, Mónica, the chief storyteller for the national cross-partisan depolarization organization Braver Angels, takes you to the real front lines of a crisis that threatens to grind America to a halt—broken conversations among confounded people. She shows you how to overcome the fear and certainty that surround us to finally do what only seems impossible: understand and even learn from people in your life whose whole worldview is different from or even opposed to yours.

Drawing from cross-partisan conversations she’s had, organized, or witnessed everywhere from the echo chambers on social media to the wheat fields in Oregon to raw, unfiltered fights with her own family on election night, Mónica shows how you can put your natural sense of wonder to work for you immediately, finding the answers you need by talking with people—rather than about them—and asking the questions you want, curiously.

In these pages, you’ll learn: 
    How to ask what you really want to know (even if you’re afraid to)
    How to grow smarter from even the most tense interactions, online or off
    How to cross boundaries and find common ground—with anyone

Whether you’re left, right, center, or not a fan of labels: If you’re ready to fight back against the confusion, heartbreak, and madness of our dangerously divided times—in your own life, at least—Mónica’s got the tools and fresh, surprising insights to prove that seeing where people are coming from isn’t just possible. It’s easier than you think.


Praise for I Never Thought of It That Way. . .

"In clear and lively exposition Mónica Guzmán lays out how we have become unlikely and increasingly not interested in talking to people with whom we don't agree . . . We need to return to our basic curiosity about what other people think and feel. That's our most human, most empathic, starting point."
—Sherry Turkle, MIT Professor, author of Reclaiming Conversation

"Mónica's love of personal connection underpins this gentle, persuasive guide to better communication. The lessons of this book will improve all your personal and professional relationships, guaranteed, and might even save America from its own ideological divides."
—Markos Moulitsas, founder of Daily Kos

"Mónica Guzmán invites wonder into the gulfs that divide us--a revolutionary kind of wonder that beckons us to listen beyond soundbites and slogans to the stories that carry our shared humanity. I Never Thought of It That Way is an accessible and practical guide for how to imagine a future that leaves no one behind."
—Valarie Kaur, author of See No Stranger and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project

Mónica Guzmán is a journalist and entrepreneur who lives for good conversation sparked by challenging questions. She’s the cofounder of The Evergrey, an award-winning newsletter and community in Seattle, and serves as an adviser to Braver Angels, a national organization out to depolarize America, and Together Washington, an organization building collaborative local relationships among leaders in Washington state. Mónica is a former columnist at The Seattle Times, GeekWire, and Columbia Journalism Review. She studied social and political division as a 2019 Henry M. Jackson Leadership Fellow, and spent the 2015–2016 academic year studying how journalists can evolve to better meet the needs of a participatory public as a Nieman Fellow at Harvard University. She is an immigrant, a Latina, a dual US-Mexico citizen, and the mom of two bilingual kids.(Photo credit: Meghann J. Peirson)

Mellina White is a Seattle resident who writes about how politics and culture impact our society. Oh, and a little bit about fashion, too. She blogs at The Seattle Conservative and has contributed her thoughts on The Evergrey, Spark Magazine and KUOW. She is curious about why our country has grown more and more divided in recent years, and what it will take to bring us back together again. In the past, Mellina has contributed to DapperQ, a queer fashion site, and most recently created a project for the movement calling for solidarity and collaboration between members and allies of the Asian community and the Black Lives Matter movement, #AZNxBLM. (Photo credit: Kristin Leong)

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