This story is woven out of the twin threads of love and loss. Alternating chapters offer up an exquisite emotional balance between the story of Sonya's husband losing the memory of their life together, and the story of how the couple met, fell in love, and built a life together. Sonya writes with brute honesty, inviting the reader to stand witness at a profound level. This story is set primarily in the Puget Sound where Sonya teaches writing at Hugo House and with the Red Badge Project. Treat yourself.
Wondering Who You Are braids the story of Sonya and Richard's relationship, those memories that he could no longer conjure, together with his fateful days in the hospital--the internal bleeding, the near-death experience, and eventual traumatic brain injury. It follows the couple through his recovery as they struggle with his treatment, and through a marriage no longer grounded on decades of shared experience. As they build a fresh life together, as Richard develops a new personality, Sonya is forced to question her own assumptions, beliefs, and desires, her place in the marriage and her way of being in the world. With radical candor and honesty, Sonya Lea has written a memoir that is both a powerful look at perseverance in the face of trauma and a surprising exploration into what lies beyond our fragile identities.